Wedding Dates – Seven Steps for Setting a Wedding Date.

If you’re newly-engaged, congratulations!  Of the many wedding planning tasks that lie ahead of you, one of the first things is to choose when to get married.  Choosing a wedding date is one of the most important planning decisions that you’ll have to make as a couple once you have got engaged.

Don’t be tempted to pick a date at random. The time of year of when to get married can have a huge impact on how your wedding day pans out.

The date will impact every other aspect of your big day.  You may have an idea of where you envisage yourself walking down the aisle or what you want your cake to look like. But until you decide when you’d like to get married, you can’t commit to anything.

So you may be asking yourself some of these questions…. “How do I pick a date that works for everyone and is still special to me?” or “Where do I even start?”

For every couple, the process is completely unique. That is part of what makes your wedding date so special to you.

I hope that by sharing some wedding planner insight I can help you find the perfect time to say “I do.

1. Take the weather into account for your Wedding Date.

The most popular months to get married are June through to September.  It is no surprise because of the weather!  But in the UK the weather is never guaranteed!

I’ve planned weddings where I’ve encountered some unseasonably strange weather – hail in June!  Think about your guests and their comfort level.  A marquee in a field at Christmas does not sound so appealing but a stunning country manor with roaring open fires does sound appealing and cosy!

I love every season for its unique beauty but do look at each season to consider the logistics of what the weather can bring.

2. Consider all the factors for “off-season” wedding date or a midweek wedding.

Getting married in January or March might allow you to get the venue of your dreams at a reduced rate but you may have to be prepared to make sacrifices in other areas. For example, peonies may your favourite flower and you can’t imagine having a bouquet with anything else.  You may well then be very disappointed as your florist will struggle to find them as they are out of season.

The same factor applies for midweek versus Saturday weddings.  Although a venue might be able to give you a good price that doesn’t necessarily apply to all wedding suppliers. Staffing and food costs will be the same whatever the day it is.

And consider your guests. Will your friends and family be able to take time off during the week?

3. How do you envisage your day?

A useful way to work out the time of year for your wedding date is by imagining that your wedding day has finally arrived — what do you see?

Is it a stunning outside ceremony in a dreamy rose garden? Do you see a long lengthy evening with the sun setting behind festival style tipis in a field in the countryside?  Are you all wrapped up in the fur walking up the steps to a grand country house or on a snow topped mountain!?

Dream your wedding and that will help you work out the potential season you would like to get married in.  Instantly you have nearly cut out three quarters of the year!

4. Think twice before getting married on a major bank holiday or sporting day.

There are the obviously dates that come to mind to possibly avoid even if they are screaming “romantic” to you.  Christmas, Valentine’s Day and New Year’s Eve are the big three; but you may also want to reconsider tying the knot on religious holidays, large event weekends and major sporting events.

Your wedding date is something you want to celebrate for years to come because of the meaning behind it. Not because its Christmas Day or New Years Eve.  A major consideration is the significant costs that are associated with weddings on major “dates”.  For example, the price of roses during Valentine’s Day is unbelievable, so having them for your wedding could really put a dent in your overall budget. 

But perhaps the biggest factor to consider is your guests.  Yes, your wedding is about the two of you. But you also want to make it an event that your guests are excited about and can afford to attend and not miss out on their own family commitments. Hotels, flights, and even car hire can all get very expensive, especially over a bank holiday weekend.

5. Focus on what you want your wedding day to be and how to portray that in a Wedding Date.

At this stage, you should have your potential wedding dates narrowed down to a month or two. This is where it gets fun! Within the months that made the cut, are there any dates that are meaningful to you as a couple or as individuals? Do you want to honour a family member who is no longer alive by getting married on their birthday or anniversary?  Are there any dates you want to avoid?  Talk to your close family to check with them.

6. Give yourself plenty of time, and don’t rush it!

I have planned full weddings in just a few months, and we’ve all seen how weddings can be pulled together within weeks on the television! . However, what you might not be aware of, is the cost that it takes to ensure that a big celebration can be executed and produced quickly.

It is always possible to plan a big day in a short amount of time.  Anything is possible, but there might be areas that you will have to sacrifice.  For example, a custom wedding gown can take over a year to create, depending on what you want. Also, your custom designed invitations may take a few months to create and print.  And your favoured suppliers may well be booked up already on your date.

The moral of the story is to make sure you give yourself enough time to plan. Think carefully about things that are truly important to you and that you would like on your wedding date.

7. Think about other aspects of your wedding and how they will all play out.

Now, depending on what other aspects of your wedding are important, you might want to keep an open mind to a few wedding dates.  What if your dream venue is booked? The marquee company you want to use maybe out of stock. The dream photographer is on holiday?

And as mentioned before, what about the important people in your family? You will want to make sure they can attend! 

So what is the wedding date for you?  Please do be in touch to tell me about setting your wedding date. How did you came to work it out?

If you would like any help with the planning of your wedding (full or just a bit) do be touch. Have a look out for my follow on blogs where I break down the months and give you some ideas for flowers, décor, dresses for that month.

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